Some people are afraid of heights, spiders and dentists. Others – such a pleasant thing as love. They do not admit to themselves and at the same time, the dream of marriage.
For the time you are going through just that the number of attempts to improve relations with men, you have a little more than successes. More and more "well, did not work" or "no luck". Motivated by constant amorous failures often develops more and prone to depression. Or an inferiority complex if you start to blame yourself: appearance, character, mom and dad and the gene pool of the nation as a whole. Or, even less pleasant, even angry with the opposite sex. And out of the maze of problems without the help of a psychologist will be difficult. Therefore, to know the enemy’s face and defuse the approaches – the task is extremely important. For a start try to honestly look at yourself – not sitting there in my heart this would seem naive and unsophisticated setting as "the expectation of the prince on a white horse." Of course, not necessarily on white – there may be options for up to black "zhigulenka, but the principle is the same. By themselves, these expectations were already pretty difficult life, but if you’re still afraid to raise his eyes on the man, nice to you, preferring to walk "impregnable beautiful lady" – this is it.
Everything began in childhood when my mother read to you the tale of Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty and other wonderful talented girl, and my dad included for restless daughter for a day cartoons or children’s romantic fairy tale, only to myself not to play with you, and quietly read a newspaper. This is done without any ill intent, but only out of habit or even naively. And then in the minds of girls born far not the child’s problem.
Romantic emotions on the screen or the pages of fairy tales seem so beautiful, that they begin to worry in earnest. Girls are most associated with love-the greatest happiness in life, leaving no chance of any companionship, or even ice cream. And while implementation will stabilize at a point "somewhere in the future when I’m grown up and beautiful, that has a good chance there and hang on for life.
Some came up with such tales themselves: with a main role and a certain mysterious prince always nice and, of course, noble. It was then that "you little" and imbued with the idea that your life will certainly be large and light fantasy, perfect love. On view seems to be nothing wrong, but because in this case still appears on the boys’ division, "princes" and "not a prince." Guess which category the people anymore? What about all the "no princes," you think defocused and transmits them to the left on the board. And those few who find it difficult scanning system allowed to penetrate beyond the watchtower, waiting for no less lamentable fate of gradual disillusionment. And just because his baseball cap on his head, and not a crown.
Worst of all, throwing the bar unearthly happiness above Lavra Bell Tower, she still associates it only with love. The joy of friendship, travel, sports, creativity is put clearly below. Constantly something is missing. Has not happened in 16 or 18 years old love gets so obsessed goose that by 25-30 years acquires the features and extent of pathology. The time is coming … and where? In this case, you almost do not notice that half of the possible contenders for the unearthly happiness simply discourages its coldness.
A woman waiting to the prince, like a cat ready to pounce – behind her are free to frolic herds of mice, it also will look closely at the hole. In other words, waiting for something impossible, naive fenced off from the whole world blind wall and is afraid to enter into your life anything imperfect. However, this is not the trouble, because sooner or later the strap a little down. But the problem remains.
How to distinguish a person affected by "the fear of love" from the crowd? It’s very simple: these people show the opposite sex indifference. Of course, because they are still waiting, sitting on top of Mount Olympus, which are on either side, then look around in vain? In this case, inside a "disinterested" can boil most real Shakespearean passion with full analysis of "who looked like me." Demonstrating the coldness, the man with the fear of love is very sensitive to the opinion of others about yourself, especially if they are all cute. He becomes dependent on foreign estimates, it has underway developing anxious-hypochondriac syndrome – is when thrown into the air each phrase: "That monster!" – Right there to try on and it turns out just right.
Due to a busy gazing into trivia such reinsurer sees in all manner of other people’s indifference to him. More than that – it wants to perceive. Fictional or real, but it is indifference begins to hurt hurt. "I’m useless. Nobody loves me "- the typical findings that a woman can do. And to those who she really likes it even more vigilant, as guided by the thought: "God forbid, he decides that I’m in love with him! Bah! "And the hard bosses nose. Ends with complete confidence that "love – it’s something unfulfilled, from another world, and in my life, it never comes."
And what happens when someone more daring and open than our razneschastnaya heroine, suddenly come up and say: "I love you"? That is because, it happened! Let not the perfect prince, but that same love. Now strike up the fanfare and fireworks into the air vzovyutsya …
No, the pipes! The thing that people with the fear of love just will not know how he react to such a statement. He was accustomed not to trust the world, he has already lost between reality and speculation, meaning it has small inadequate. Hearing treasured words, a woman may turn away in horror and run faster Olympic champion in the hundred meter race. In the truest sense of the word! And it will run faster, the better it refers to, from whose mouth broke three fateful words. If it was not a little love, a cold shower of icy contempt for a young person is provided. The absurdity of this behavior is obvious to you? Turn off the autopilot and take control of the flight itself!